17-year-old refuses to meet his absent dad's baby after his ex wife constantly harasses him begging him to have a relationship with his half-sibling: 'She's been calling me names and saying only a monster wouldn't love their own sibling.'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Mar 31, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

I wouldn't consider myself a master at persuasion. I'm always willing to share my opinion on a matter, solicited or not, but if someone is convinced that their way is the only way, there's very little I can do to change their mind. I can't deceive my way out of a paper bag because everything I'm thinking is written all over my face. 

Just because I know I have difficulty changing people's minds doesn't mean that's the case for everyone. Many people go pedal to the metal to try and get their way and won't stop even when it's clear that the answer is, and has always been, no. One of my friends has an acquaintance who has been trying to get with her for 3 years and won't take no for an answer. It's one thing to pine for years silently, but to keep asking and expecting a different answer is the definition of insanity. 

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  • The mom in this story cannot take no for an answer. She has repeatedly asked her baby daddy's teenage son to have a relationship with her child, to no avail. When he blocked her phone number, she found new, increasingly invasive ways to contact him to insult him. Very persuasive. 

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    AITA for telling my dad's ex wife I don't care about her or her kid?

    My parents divorced when I was 2 or younger. I (17) lived with my mom until she did when I was 7 and then my dad decided to stop me going into foster care. He wasn't an involved dad before mom died and he didn't become one after either but he kept a roof over my head and food in my belly so he did something I
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    guess. I got used to doing things for myself and spent most of my time bouncing around some friends houses. I tried to never stay too long so they wouldn't grow tired of having me around and it's worked. I'm 17 now and I have less than a year to go.
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    When I was 15 my dad started dating someone and they got married right before my 16th birthday. They were married for a few months when my dad left her. She was pregnant at the time. He told her he wanted to divorce and that was it. She moved out but tried to win him back and she tried to build some kind of
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    relationship with me and she said she wanted me to know her baby. I wasn't interested so I ignored her. The baby was born and they did a DNA test and the baby's my dad's kid. The divorce was finalized a while after that.
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    My dad has nothing to do with his ex's child and I never met the baby either. Dad has support taken from his paycheck but that's all he has to do with that kid.
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    His ex wife kept trying to reach me via socials and text. I blocked her number and made my accounts private so she couldn't reach me but the texts didn't stop even with blocking her. It's always some different or weird number.
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    She told me dad might not want to know but I'm a big brother and her child deserves to have a good relationship with me. I don't want one. I'm not interested in meeting her child. Being related doesn't do anything for me. I ignored her for weeks before I snapped the other night after she said she was
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    the mother to my sibling and I had a sibling and they cared about me and needed me and I sent a text back saying I don't care about her or her kid and to leave me alone. I blocked that number then but she did what she keeps doing.
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    My next step is once I'm 18 get a new number and just move on. But ever since I sent that text she's been calling me names and saying only a monster wouldn't love their own flesh and bl d sibling. AITA?
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    ProfessorDistinct835 NTA. Maybe get your dad involved. She's his ex and he should deal with her.
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    Slimpidge OP He won't do anything. He does the basics and that's about it.
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    ProfessorDistinct835 Depends how much it bugs you. If you can live with it until you get a new phone, ignore it. If you want to go nuclear, record her and take it to the police. You're NTA for not wanting a relationship with your 1/2 sibling. You may in the future, but that's entirely your call.
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    believehype1616 Family is not the same thing as bl d. She thinks it is, you clearly know better. It's ok to not be involved with someone who shares some blod with you but never was in a relationship or household situation with you.
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    If she'd even been part of the household for a few years maybe it'd be reasonable to suggest you build a relationship with the half sibling. But it sounds like you might not have even met the baby and the ex was only around a short time. She's bonkers for even attempting it.
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    Sea_Roof3637 She wants a babysitter. NTA
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    Slimpidge OP I think she wants emotional support too. She didn't expect to be on her own and she wants to make me take over for dad.
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    Sea_Roof3637 Of course having a new baby is hard and it's extra hard when you've split with your baby daddy. However she had to have seen how checked out your dad is with you though? Did she magically think her kid would be the golden one to make him an involved father.
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    Slimpidge OP I think she thought they were a forever thing so it'd be different. I could tell he wasn't serious about her and the divorce didn't surprise me. But she really thought he loved her and they'd be together for the rest of their lives. I don't think he loves anyone except himself though.
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    Suitable_Doubt7359 Something also tells me that he told her that he didn't want any children and she didn't believe him like an idiot. Still not your responsibility.
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    NopeNinjaSquirrel Doesn't matter what she wants. This is harassment and probably online stalking too. She's the adult, you're a minor. That's got to be all kinds of illegal
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    Sure_Assist_7437 NTA, the next time she messages you send her this. "I have made my position clear in not wanting to be involved. If you continue harassing me as a minor, I will take the evidence and go to the Police in order to draft a Cease & Desist complaint against you. I do not wish to have a relationship with you or your child. Accept this or I will follow through with legal action. Your relationship with my Father is his business and not mine. Youre continuing harassment over his lack of
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    involvement as well as mine, and I've done my best to explain I do not wish to have a relationship with you or your child. Continued pressure & harassment will result in a Protective Order against you if you do not stop." Unfortunately, bordering on adulthood at 17 means you need to speak like an adult & put your point across without childish actions or speech. But escalate it if she does not stop. Go to the Police yourself, explain the situation. Protect yourself & your peace.
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    angelmagicxo NTA, and that's a solid approach if she doesn't stop. Setting clear boundaries, especially legally, can help make it clear that you're serious. It's unfortunate that you have to go that far, but if she keeps harassing you, a cease and desist is a serious step. You don't have to tolerate her crossing your boundaries, and protecting your peace is most important. You've already tried to be clear with her, and if she keeps pushing, escalating it might be the only way to make her underst
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    Nonby_Gremlin Yeah if she didn't pay much attention to you before I'm inclined to think she's trying to get you involved so she has some help with the baby. I feel bad for her but she's not your problem. I I'd 100% let your dad di alone, he's awful.
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    MogamboKhushNAHIHua Man I hate absent fathers. They be destroying everything around them including themselves. Stay strong mate, that ain't yours to take responsibility.
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